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Step 1: Validation
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Thank you to all the heartfelt responses from the last couple of emails about mothers and daughters.

I want to reassure you that you are not alone.
Your truths and how you experienced them are valid.

There’s the relationships we have, the relationships we don’t have, the ones we wished we had, and what we make them mean about ourselves.

It’s deep, ongoing work. And we don’t get to control it, so what can we do?

Comfort it.
" I ask my animal what would make her feel better. A walk in the sunlight? A friendly voice? A treat? A nap? My animal teaches me how to take care of her, and she shows me how to care for myself."
- ELIZABETH GILBERT WHAT TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF REALLY MEANS
This email has been inspired by a response to an email I received:

For me, at this understanding at present in my journey, I’ve learned/am learning to comfort my physical sensations.

I ask myself:
What is my body craving that I can give it right now?

Some examples include:
  • Rubbing my collar bone
  • massaging my temples
  • rocking or swaying
  • crossing my arms across my chest and squeezing in a hug or rubbing my arms

All the ways I would have comforted a toddler feel good to me as an adult, too.

And I can give them to myself - not that I was taught that.

Society and culture tells us we "should" get it from certain, specific people.

When that works out - great - but what about when it doesn’t?
And what if it still feels lonely or not quite right?

Other things that I’ve found helpful along my journey are sharing with trusted friends, journaling, talk therapy, EMDR therapy, EFT tapping, and other modalities including coaching.

You are not alone.

I’ve had so many conversations with so many different people with all sorts of situations who have hard relationships with their mothers.

It comes up in our money coaching all the time, in unexpected, spontaneous ways.

It is a strange sort of comfort and connection to know that all sorts of people can feel the same way that I do.

Tending to these wounded parts inside of us is connected to our relationship with money, but more importantly, it's connected to our relationship with ourselves - and that affects every aspect of our lives.

It's not weird or wrong or bad.
It's normal.

Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for persevering.
Thank you for being you.

You matter.
You are valued.
You are enough simply for being who you are.
This one's for the daughters. You can substitute/swap any title as needed.
I'm writing from the perspective that I know:
  • I have a mother. I have a daughter.
  • I am a mother. I am a daughter.

    • This month, I'm going to both honor and address our mothers and how our mothers may affect our relationship to money.

    When you book a discovery call to work with me in Profit + Flow this month, you'll get exclusive access to 3 workshops on the mother-daughter relationships and 2 additional sessions inside of Profit + Flow that will allow full attention to your mother-daughter relationship and how it could be showing up in your relationship with money.
    • 3 Exclusive Workshops
      Your Mother, explore your relationship with your mother
      Your Money Role Model, explore your relationship of "good with money"
      Becoming the Change, combine the mother-daughter relationship and the money role model you wish you'd had and put that into practice for yourself

      • + 2 Bonus Sessions added to your Profit + Flow sessions
  1. You must book your discovery call in the month of May, it may take place in June.
  2. A discovery call is a 30 minute conversation where you tell me what your ideal money situation would be and I tell you what working with me as your own, personal money mentor for 6 months would entail in the last few moments of our time together. It's not a hard push sales call. It is a friendly conversation about money.
    It's safe, it's fun, it's supportive and helpful.
  3. You are not required to sign up for Profit + Flow to attend the workshops, but the 2 additional sessions are for those who do sign up to work with me in Profit + Flow .
  4. This is a one time offer and does expire at midnight. May 30th.
  5. You don't need to have a hard/bad relationship with your mother for this to be beneficial ;). We all have some mother stuff come up in our money.
image of Rachelle Siebke, Money Coach's handwritten first name with a swoop underneath and two lines
photo of Rachelle Siebke, Money coach as the Grinch
My custom process to self-coaching is
  1. Validation
  2. Information
  3. Exploration

This email, comforting physical sensations is part of Validation.

When you work with me, I will teach you how to use these 3 steps to coach yourself without gaslighting yourself with toxic positivity.

P.S. Hit reply if you care to share:
What have you found to be comforting/helpful for you when validating your own experience?
 
 


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