Acknowledging how your mother-daughter relationship might have impacted or may be showing up in your relationship to yourself and your money today is not about confronting her.
We're raised by imperfect humans, all of us.
Because all humans are imperfect.
That doesn't have to be a problem when we learn how to give ourselves what we need, what we wished we would have had, when we love ourselves unconditionally.
Our perceptions as humans are widely open to interpretation.
Interpretations are imperfect.
Exploring your mother-daughter relationship and your money patterns today is about comforting the inner child or the parts of you who accidentally, innocently, naively internalized messages and marketing that just doesn't line up with who you are and what you want for your own life.
You're an adult. You get to money however you'd like!
So what if it was fun, free, and optimistic?
How delicious would that be?
I would never mention the Nike sweatshirt or my disappointment and confusion about Christmas gifts to my mom.
Not because I was wrong or because she was wrong but because it wouldn't change how my child's mind created the story about "not ever getting what I wanted so what was the point?"
Also?
My mom has told me how proud she is of the gifts she gave us and the memories she made (which is true! She did some really cool things for us, too.)
She and my dad both wanted us to get what we wanted on Christmas morning.
That's her truth. She gets to keep that, but it doesn't make my money story magically change my money story that "I never get what I want so what's the point?".
What will change, could change, has changed my internal money story is acknowledging the sensations in my body, asking what those parts of me wanted then and want me to know now, and then making a conscious decision to allow myself my full desires and then utilizing my resources - my time, my money, my energy, my decision making skills - to get more of the life that I want with the resources I already have while I build and grow and expand if that's what I desire.
This work is about looking at the money stories you learned in the past and nurturing and accepting and acknowledging all those parts and asking them what they need.
It's about looking around for money role models that you get to choose on purpose, instead of the narrow scope of examples you had in your childhood. It's about making decisions about what you decide "good with money" means.
It's about combining what you've discovered in your mother-daughter and money role model explorations and becoming more of who you are on the inside, the expansive, magnet parts that aren't protecting or frozen.
You've got two days to sign up for the super-small, intimate live upcoming workshops below. Your Mother, Your Money Role Model, and Becoming the Change.
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